In the movie "Austin Powers: The Spy Who Shagged Me," Austin Powers lost his "mojo" when Dr. Evil's henchman Fat Bastard took the purple liquid from his body using a syringe. It would be nice if every man in the world loses their appetite for sex that way, but many men have to go through the drudgery of losing their own "mojo" the hard way.
Libido, or your sex drive, is perhaps the most important factor that makes - or breaks - the sexual part of your relationship with your partner. While some men can sustain a powerful and active sex drive for days on end, some men may find it hard to keep up with their partners. Some may even find it hard to keep up with their own expectations of themselves when they're in bed. If you want to get rid of that evening funk and get yourself groovin' in bed, here are some ways to regain your sex drive.
Why Men Lose Libido
For many men, sexual performance is a very significant personal issue. It's one thing to sustain a relationship, and it's another thing to keep your partner satisfied. Sex may not be the be-all-end-all of a relationship, but how you perform in bed can make a really big difference in how your relationship with your partner goes. Here are some reasons why men lose their sex drive:
•Age. Unlike women, men can maintain a very active sex drive well into old age. Some medical professionals subscribe to the idea of andropause, or a phenomenon where men experience lowered sex drives because of age. Some studies show that testosterone levels in men get lower as they grow older.
•Physical health. An unhealthy diet and lifestyle can also reduce testosterone levels. High levels of testosterone, and a healthy sex drive, are usually found in men who eat a balanced diet, have regular exercise, and enjoy their sex lives.
•Emotional health. Many men equate a healthy sex life with an attractive, desirable partner. If you find yourself attracted to your partner, and if you have enough confidence to keep your partner satisfied both emotionally and sexually, then you won't have the same motivation or incentive to have sex.
Sexual Play
You can't force yourself to have sex with your partner, but you can add a whole new dimension to your sexual experiences by exploring new ways to have sex. Play is a very important way to heighten sexual pleasure. Here are some ways that you can make sex more pleasurable, sensual, and enjoyable.
•Foreplay. Sex should be enjoyed from beginning to end. Instead of getting through the act, try some interesting things from the very beginning. Try to heighten you and your partner's senses from the very beginning. Some ideas may include costumes, lingerie, scents, and visual cues like candles and flowers.
•Kink. There are as many ways to have sex as you can enjoy it. Instead of sticking with the same sexual positions and treading the same beaten path to orgasm, try to explore other ways to have sex. Movies, manuals, and books can help you explore new ways to have sex.
•Places. As long as you and your partner do not violate rules and laws for indecent exposure, you can try to have sex in all sorts of different places outside of your bedroom.
You can think of sex as a theatrical performance. As long as you're not violating any rules, and as long as your partner consents (or even contributes) to your wild ideas, then you can enjoy sex in so many different ways.
Libido-Enhancing Foods
You can also improve your sex drive by eating a healthy, balanced diet. While exotic aphrodisiacs from all over the world claim to help improve virility, there's still no substitute for enjoyable meals made with libido-enhancing foods. Try these on for starters:
•Seafood. Fish, oysters, clams, and the other bounties of the sea are rich in zinc and other minerals that help increase your sex drive. Raw oysters have been known since ancient times as an aphrodisiac, and many males consumed great quantities of raw oysters to improve and increase their sexual prowess.
•Avocados. The avocado is more than just for Mexican guacamole; the fruit contains a lot of folic acid, which can help increase your sex drive.
•Chocolate. Chocolate makes you feel good because of two chemicals called phenylethylamine and theobromine. If you include chocolate to your sexual play, you can have a really sensual and exciting night of wild, unbridled passion.
See a Doctor or a Therapist
You may think that it's just a funk or a rut, but some cases of dramatically low sex drive can be caused by impotence. While impotence is anything but a life-threatening disease, it can seriously affect your self-esteem and your relationship with your partner. Doctors and therapists may prescribe medication that can help cure or stem the onset of impotence.
Remember that no amount of sexual enhancing remedies will bring back your libido if you don't foster a loving and passionate relationship with your partner. With these tips to bring back your libido and bring you out of a sexual funk, you can get back to your feeling of being a real man's man, and get in touch with the mojo that got you your partner in the first place.